When you have a loved one living in a nursing home or assisted living facility, it’s important to visit as often as you reasonably can. The stress of moving to a new environment often compounds medical problems and can make recovery more difficult. Staying active and socially engaged is an important part of healthy living, and you can help your loved one stay positive when you visit.
- Nursing homes typically have visitation schedules that you should be aware of as you plan your visit. Dropping by unannounced can be a stressor instead of providing the comfort and pleasure you intended.
- You should not visit when you have a cold, flu, or other virus, as other residents may have immune deficiencies which make them more susceptible to illness.
- Call ahead to find out if your loved one is in need of any personal items, clothing, or other necessities. Ask what time of day would be best to avoid mealtimes and medication times.
- Gifts are usually welcome. You can always bring flowers, but consider bringing a gift that will last longer such as a blanket, pillow, sweater, or slippers with good tread. Children can draw their own cards and pictures to brighten up the room.
- Medical devices can often be intimidating, but don’t be afraid to touch your loved one during the visit. Nursing home patients often suffer from isolation, and the healing powers of a human touch go a long way toward reestablishing that physical connection.
- You can plan to share a meal with your loved one, but make sure to ask about the nursing home’s policy about bringing food in.
- Don’t be in a hurry when you visit, and listen actively when your loved one is speaking. Make sure you can give them your full attention. Bring activities along for the kids to keep them occupied.
- You may be able to offer a manicure, pedicure, or hair cut during your visit. If you plan to take your loved one off site for any reason, just be sure to clear it with the staff beforehand.
- Get to know nursing home staff and other residents. Many residents don’t get many visitors, and you can easily brighten someone’s day just by popping in to say hello. Informal conversations will also allow you to gauge the level of care and working conditions in the nursing home.
Staying in a nursing home can be very hard on patients due to the social isolation and constant focus on medical issues. Many patients can start to feel like a burden to family members, and they might not want anyone making a fuss over them. Be sure to reassure your loved one that they are an important part of your life, and respect their feelings as well as their intelligence. After all, they are adults in need of medical care, not children who can’t take care of themselves.
